Do you ever look around and wonder how other people succeed in life and you just feel like a failure? You don’t understand why you can’t get a better job, make more money, be happier, more confident and have better relationships. You tend to blame everything from your childhood to your circumstances, but it doesn’t change the fact that you are stuck in a big rut.
So many people waste their lives blaming a crappy lot in life and never spend time looking inward to the source of the problem which is their mindset.
Our mindset is the sum of every thought, belief and opinion that has been passed down to us or learned through our own experience. It’s the driving force behind our action or inaction and the one that we choose to adopt determines the path we take in life.
One path will have you Living in abundance and the other struggling in scarcity. The important thing is that YOU get to decide which path you choose. Which one will you place in the driver’s seat?
Let’s dig into the key differences between abundance and scarcity and see how they both impact your success.
Here are a few ways that developing an abundance mindset will allow you to live a more fulfilled, exciting and successful life.
You Have More Than Enough – An abundant mindset revolves around the idea that there is plenty for everyone. Money, Time, Resources, Love, Opportunity, Success – it’s all out there, ready and waiting for you (and everyone else) to take a piece of the pie.
Change is welcome - You understand that change is necessary for growth and will actively seek out opportunities to step outside your comfort zone and embrace new ventures in life and business. You look at failure as an opportunity to learn instead of giving up as soon as you hit the first obstacle.
You are Happy for Others - Rather than being threatened by another’s good fortune, you are genuinely happy and supportive of someone else’s success. You enjoy seeing others receive abundance in their life because you know there is more than enough to go around.
Optimistic Attitude - An optimistic, positive attitude is another attribute of someone who adopts this mentality. You see limitless possibilities in front of you and choose to have a positive outlook no matter what happens in life. You are able to move forward despite your circumstances and focus more on what is working and going well in life rather than what is not.
Practicing Gratitude - A huge part of an abundance mindset is the ability to practice gratitude on a daily basis. When you have a grateful heart it’s easier to notice even the smallest blessings. You will tend to focus more on what you have then what you lack and always find something to be thankful for.
These are just a few ways that a scarcity mindset will hold you back and keep you from realizing your true potential.
Fear – A scarcity mindset keeps a person rooted in fear - fear of the unknown, fear of change, fear of the future. You may avoid taking risks and rarely leave your comfort zone because the possibility of failure is too strong. This can greatly impact your career choice as well as how much money you make.
Comparison Trap – You constantly feel the need to compare yourself to others when living with a scarcity mindset. You tend to base your self-worth entirely upon how well you measure up to everyone else. This is a lose-lose situation and a vicious cycle that will keep you from experiencing true connection with others.
Living in Lack – Scarcity will have you believing that there is a limit to everything – time, money, resources, opportunity, love and success. There is always a fear that there won’t be enough and can lead to over-indulgence and competitiveness. Someone with this mindset will find it hard to share and give to others which can have a negative impact on relationships.
Jealousy/Envious of Others – You’ll find it hard to be happy for others when you are living with a scarcity mindset. You feel threatened by other’s success and celebrate when they fail only because you lack confidence in your own life and feel like success is never within your reach.
Pessimistic Attitude – With a scarcity mindset, you focus entirely on what wrong with your life and are stuck in a continuous pity party. Your outlook on the future is mediocre at best and you tend to be a “worst case scenario” type person. You see your current situation as permanent which impacts your ability to see any other opportunities.
Both abundance and scarcity have a huge impact on your life – It’s easy to see which one is preferable between the two, however, it all depends on you. The first step is becoming aware of your thoughts and deciding which life you want to live.
Mindset is an incredibly powerful tool. It is the driving force behind the actions and behaviors which will set us up for success or keep us fearful and unsure about the future. Depending on which mindset we adopt, our perspectives will be very different. The path of abundance has us looking at the world through a lens of optimism and gratitude. However, with a scarcity mindset all we see are obstacles, problems and no way out.
Unfortunately, we live in a society that is deeply rooted in scarcity. People live their lives in fear, blaming their circumstances, completely certain that their situation is permanent. The good news is, this doesn’t have to be the end of the line. You just have to make a decision. You have to decide that you aren’t going to settle for a life of scarcity anymore, but rather move forward in abundance.
You can begin taking steps today to develop an abundance mindset and it’s easier than you might think. Here are 10 simple things you can incorporate into your daily life that will have you on the life-changing path of abundance in no time. Let’s dig in!
1. Mind Your Thoughts – The mind is constantly buzzing with thoughts that dictate our perspective on the world around us. These thoughts truly do run our lives and it’s important to be aware of them when making the transition from scarcity to abundance. Pay attention to the things going on inside your head. What thoughts monopolize your time? Are they positive or negative? Take one day and track as many thoughts as you possibly can. Write down anything that comes to mind. What message are you telling yourself through those thoughts? I’m not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough. I can’t. What if I fail? Who am I to do something big in this world? Your thoughts have been holding you back in a big way and if you want a more Abundant life, that is one of the first things that has to change. Once you become fully aware of what is going on, you regain control and those thoughts lose their power over you.
2. Eliminate Toxic People – One of THE best things you can do for yourself and your future success is eliminating toxic people from your life. Identify those relationships that are weighing you down and make the decision to stop sacrificing your own needs and happiness for those that don’t value you. Put yourself first. Take a long, hard look at who you’ve allowed into your circle. Do they build you up or bring you down? Toxic people will keep you stuck in a cycle of drama and negativity because it suits them and their selfish agenda. They don’t want you to do any better than them and won’t allow you to grow and flourish into the person you are meant to be. Make an effort to distance yourself from those who make you feel ‘less than’ and seek out those that are more Abundance minded. Find a tribe of like-minded people who will celebrate your wins and encourage you to be the best possible version of yourself.
3. Practice Gratitude – One of the most powerful things you can do to attract abundance is by practicing gratitude on a daily basis. Be purposeful. Decide that you are going to look for and seek out the good in every day. Notice even the smallest blessings as you go through your daily routine. Instead of dreading the day when you wake up, immediately think of a few reasons why you are excited and grateful to jump out of bed. Smile more. Complain less. Spend quality time with people who help you see the blessings in life. Start a journal. Before you go to bed, reflect on the good things that happened that day and write them down. Life is unpredictable and it won’t always be filled with happy moments. However, when you make an effort to see the good and be grateful for what you have, it makes it much easier to get through those tough times.
4. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others – We live in a society that pushes perfection and plays off of our insecurities – it’s no wonder our comparison game is strong. The problem is, when you compare yourself with another person, most of the time you’re placing their strengths against your weaknesses. You’re looking at their highlight reel and comparing it with your mess behind the scenes. This is a recipe for self-destruction and the quickest path to feeling depressed, resentful and unworthy. Stop the madness and take steps to eliminate comparison from your life. Do a social media detox or spend less time online. Embrace your quirks and imperfections – they make you, YOU. Keep in mind that there are 7 billion people on this planet – not one of them is perfect (no matter what Instagram says). Turn the tables and let others inspire you with their strengths, their wins and their accomplishments. Rather than feeling like you don’t measure up, appreciate what they have to offer, while knowing that there is plenty of space for you to shine as well.
5. Be Intentional – If you’re wanting to develop more abundance in your life, the key is to be intentional about how you live. Where is most of your time and energy being spent? Are you working towards something you are proud of or just counting the days until Friday? Make time for self-reflection and get clear on what you really want out of life – what are your values, your goals and your dreams? What really lights you up inside and makes you want to jump out of bed every morning? Until we know what is truly important to us, it’s hard to be intentional with our time and effort. Be mindful of the people you allow into your circle as well as the information you consume through social media, television, etc. Make time to do things that bring you joy and choose to be kind to yourself and others. Take small steps to start embracing life on your own terms.
6. Learn Something New – One of the very best gifts you can give yourself is that of knowledge. A person who lives in abundance will make every effort to explore new ideas, learn new skills and broaden their perspective to see things in a new light. There is always something new to be learned. Decide that you are going to be a life-long learner and take full advantage of all the resources you have at your fingertips today – podcasts, Ted Talks, online courses, audio books etc. The list is endless and will provide you with a world of new ideas, thoughts and possibilities that keep the juices in your brain flowing. Consistent learning allows you to continuously grow and change into a better version of yourself all while you gain a better perspective about the world around you.
7. Be a Giver – There are billions of people on this planet, but we are all connected when it comes to giving and receiving. When you add value to someone else’s life, it will always increase the abundance in yours. Become good at being an unconditional giver of your time, energy, money, and resources. Don’t expect things in return when you give - just let it be. There are so many ways to be of value to another person. Go through your house or garage and donate things you don’t use anymore. Give away bags of clothing or toys that your kids no longer play with. You get to help someone else and declutter your space at the same time – that’s a win-win in my book. Buy groceries for a family in need or pay a bill or two for someone who is behind. Keep in mind, it doesn’t always have to be about money or material things. Pray for someone or offer a helping hand when they are struggling. Lend your ear to a co-worker who is going through a hard time. Be friendly to a stranger and offer them a smile or a few kind words – you never know what someone is going through. It might be the one thing that gets them through the rest of their day. Don’t take that for granted. Just love people without judging whether or not they deserve it.
8. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone – One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to allow countless opportunities to pass you by because you refuse to be uncomfortable. Stepping outside of your comfort zone is tough. It means pushing yourself to do things you’re not used to. It means going into unfamiliar territory. You fear getting hurt. You fear failure. I get it. It’s so much easier to shrink back and stay hidden than take a leap of faith into the unknown. But staying hidden isn’t helping you grow and it’s not challenging you to reach your full potential. Up until now, you’ve been blind to all the possibilities life has to offer. Developing an abundance mindset is about taking off those blinders and waking up to all the things you’ve been missing. It doesn’t have to be hard – reach out to someone you admire to ask them questions. Make a phone call about that job you’ve been eyeballing. Write that blog post - and then hit publish! Once you start taking baby steps outside your comfort zone, a world of possibilities will begin to open up.
9. Eliminate Excuses – If you want to live in more abundance, you have to let go of the excuses as to why you can’t have a better life. Excuses are driven by our fears and insecurities. They keep us rooted in perfectionism and procrastination so that we don’t tip toe too far outside our comfort zone. We make up reasons why we can’t before we even try. Fear of failure. Fear of what others will say. Fear of looking stupid. It’s an endless cycle that keeps us stuck in a rut, never allowing us to grow into the person we are meant to be. In order to live a more abundant life, we have to decide that we are going to eliminate excuses from our vocabulary and our life. When you notice yourself making an excuse, go to the root cause. What is keeping you from taking action? Sometimes overwhelm can play a big part and it helps to break down bigger goals into smaller tasks so they are easier to achieve.
10. Healthier Habits – It’s impossible to have a healthy mindset if you don’t take care of your body too. We live in a microwave society where unhealthy habits run rampant. We get so caught up in the daily chaos of life that we sometimes tend to put our health on the backburner. It’s a good idea to take a look at your daily habits and see which ones might need some tweaking. You don’t have to join a gym and eat lettuce every day. Simply make an effort to start putting yourself first and create a routine that works for you. Be conscious about what you are putting into your body. Make time for self-care. Eat more veggies. Get outside in nature, breathe the fresh air and make sure you’re getting enough sleep. Decrease your stress by learning to say a firm no to the things that don’t serve you. Love yourself enough to put your health and wellness at the top of the priority list.
You can easily begin developing your abundance mindset today by incorporating some of these tips into your daily routine. No matter how long your scarcity mentality has been weighing you down, you have the ability to start over at any given moment. By recognizing that you have a choice, that you don’t have to be stuck in scarcity for the rest of your life, you can begin to transform your life and create your own reality from this day forward. Give yourself patience and grace and enjoy the journey ahead.
People want to hire and buy from those they know, like, and trust.
That’s a universally held truth across the business world and the best way to earn the trust of your clients is to be authentic in how you present yourself.
What is authenticity? Other than being a commonly-used buzzword these last few years, authenticity means being your true self in both words and actions.
Your words and actions should match; your passion should be evident but not looking like it’s an act. Your honesty and integrity should be evident when speaking to you. And your online persona should match your offline persona when people meet you in person.
Some business people argue that there’s a subtle nuance to authenticity that really means being yourself in the correct setting.
For instance, wearing shorts or a business casual outfit to a corporate meeting where the other attendees are in formal suits could be seen as a sign of disrespect, even if that’s what you wear at your beach house.
If you start cursing in the middle of a staff meeting or in your emails or on your social media posts, even if that’s how you speak at home, it could be seen as disrespectful and off putting. No matter how you define the word authenticity, it’s an important trait when it comes to company branding and associating yourself as your company’s spokesperson.
Who Would You Do Business With?
The poor used car salesman stereotype gets a bad rep but you can immediately picture a smarmy guy who is all pleasant to your face but then bad mouths you when out of earshot for not buying his car or asking too many questions. For most people, that would turn them off from buying because you wouldn’t know if he’s telling the truth or just wanting to sell you a car.
Someone who’s authentic would have a genuine interest in wanting to help you, in this example, by selling you a reliable used car that actually works. They would answer any questions you might have and would find the answers if they didn’t know them right off the bat. They would be honest about the inner workings of the car and would be disappointed if you walked away from the deal, but you wouldn’t feel pressured to buy something you’re not ready for. Which of these salespeople gives you the better authenticity vibe in this example?
What are some ways you are already being authentic in your brand?
And what are some ways you now know you'd like to be more authentic?
Let me know in the comments!
Just because you’re in the coaching industry, don’t think you would never have a need for a coach of your own. Seems like a funny thing to think about but even the best coaches could use some help streamlining their businesses or having an objective third party to talk to about personal or family matters.
Heck, even psychiatrists are required to speak to other psychiatrists on a regular basis!
Business coaches can assist anyone with their businesses and often will find things to fix or change simply because they have an objective, outside viewpoint. Everything from billing inefficiencies to brainstorming product ideas, a business coach can be a non-judgmental sounding board who offers clarity and perspective.
Your Coach as Your Accountability Partner
If you have a plan in place for creating a signature program, utilizing a coach as an accountability partner is a wise investment. We all tend to work more efficiently when we know there’s a deadline looming but it’s also easy to ignore that deadline because we are the ones who set it. Rather than moving your deadline further and further away, use this accountability partner to keep your productivity on track.
Accountability is necessary in many instances, though, not just in product creation. Whatever goals you have set for yourself, your coach will hold you solely responsible for meeting those deadlines and goals.
Your Coach as Your Guide
A good business coach will have the ability to challenge your thinking and your goals in a non-threatening, non-judgmental way. Instead of staying inside our comfort zones, a coach will encourage us to explore what we fear in an effort to fight that fear and try something new. Coaches also have the skill to break down large tasks into smaller tasks that don’t seem so intimidating. They can also guide us with instructions for how to do or implement something in our business.
Your Coach as Your Mentor
When it comes to hiring a business coach, always hire someone you consider to be at a higher income level or level of success than you. After all, those who have already reached a level of success will have the best experience to share about how you can reach that same level. Your coach is one who will teach you the skills you need to be successful based on real life experiences.
Get Your Plan Started Ahead of Time
Before you spend good money on a coach, create a business plan with your goals and your action steps spelled out. You want to provide your coach with a starting point and chances are that would be your first assignment anyway with a new coach.
What has been your experiences with coaches? I'd love to hear.
Struggling with how to price your eCourse?
You’re in good company. It’s a struggle all online business owners face, and one that can even cause you to put off launching your product—maybe indefinitely.
Sound familiar? These pricing strategies will help:
How much do you want to earn?
Here’s the most basic idea: how much money do you want to make on your course sales? Take into consideration:
With all that in mind, it’s easier to calculate the cost of your course.
What is the return on investment?
Beyond how much you expect to earn from course sales, it’s important to consider how much your buyer stands to earn from her access to it. For example, if your students routinely increase their income by $2,000 every month thanks to your training, then it’s more than reasonable to charge $4,000 or more for your course. After all, action takers will earn back many times their investment.
How committed are your buyers?
Or more accurately, how committed do you want them to be? Generally speaking, the higher the price point, the more invested a buyer will be in:
This means that they’re also more likely to realize the results you promise, which leads to a better return on their investment. If you have the value and the case studies to prove a solid return, it’s reasonable to price your course higher to encourage commitment on your buyers’ part.
How exclusive is the content?
You might think that there is nothing you can teach that hasn’t already been done before—many, many times.
But there’s plenty that can make your course stand out from the crowd:
In the end though, deciding on a price for your course might come down to simply following your intuition. After all, you know your audience—and your content—best. Don’t overthink it, and don’t use pricing as an excuse not to launch.
There are people just waiting to work with you who will be so excited!